Notice the gap between what you intend and what you actually do — that gap is not 'you failing'; it is the signature of avidyā (nescience) operating through apparent individuality. Instead of layering self-reproach, ask: what is the single pattern beneath the repeated failures? Name it precisely, as Arjuna asks Kṛṣṇa to name it. Precise identification is the beginning of jñāna; vague guilt is its obstruction.
When you find yourself pulled toward activities you do not even want — compulsive scrolling, reactive speech, habitual resentment — recognize that your deeper will (oriented toward Bhagavān) is being blocked, not replaced. The practical move is not force of will but reorientation: redirect even small actions as kainkarya (service). The compulsion weakens when the jīva's natural śeṣatva (servant-nature) is exercised, not suppressed.